That “New Normal”….it’s getting easier. Finally.

“I have come to accept the feeling of not knowing where I am going. And I have trained myself to love it. Because it is only when we are suspended in mid-air with no landing in sight, that we force our wings to unravel and alas begin our flight. And as we fly, we still may not know where we are going to. But the miracle is in the unfolding of the wings. You may not know where you’re going, but you know that so long as you spread your wings, the winds will carry you.”
― C. JoyBell C.

NEW NORMAL.  Defined by the URBAN DICTIONARY:

The current state of being after some dramatic change has transpired. What replaces the expected, usual, typical state after an event occurs. The new normal encourages one to deal with current situations rather than lamenting what could have been.

NEW NORMAL. Defined by ME: 

Code for whatever or whoever we thought would be in our future is now utterly, entirely and completely in our past, intentionally or not, and is never coming back. 

What we rested our life on, what we settled into as ours, what gave us comfort and knew as our truth, is now all a memory. We didn’t ask for it. We didn’t see it coming, but we are left with no choice but to  navigate in waters we do not know. We are left to figure life out anew. We have been handed a NEW NORMAL. 

I wanted to update you on how my own new normal is going…the short answer is surprisingly well! Here’s the longer answer as to why in no particular order.

NEW NORMAL 1 – My daughter has baked her first set of apple pies. Dutch apple too–my favorite!

NEW NORMAL 2 – My immediate family consists of two people and I’ve now adjusted. Should more people get added back in, that will be a welcomed addition! 

NEW NORMAL 3 – Holidays are spent at other people’s houses which means that I get more relaxing leisure time when I could be a stressed out wreck instead. I am learning what a luxury it is to be a guest rather than a hostess.

NEW NORMAL 4 – I am currently single and available for the next love of my life BUT I love traveling too damn much! That is a huge shift in perspective for me. Where will I go next???

NEW  NORMAL 5 – I find love and connection on the fly, wherever I am, fearlessly, quickly and powerfully. I have met some really remarkable people and have cherished even small amounts of time with them. I refuse to waste my days with anything less than being present with love.

NEW NORMAL 6 – I am finding comfort in the polarities of my humanity. I no longer beat myself up for being an endless set of contradictions.  I accept that I am both gracious and selfish. That I am both big and small. That I am both spiritual and concrete. That I am an under-consumer and an over-consumer. That I do what I can for others and the planet and that it’s never enough. 

NEW NORMAL 7 – I appreciate the gift of life and the gifts that I’m given every day, from the smallest detail in the color of the rose to the grand experience of Knightsbridge in London in December. 

NEW NORMAL 8 – I am embracing every aspect of myself in unexpected and frankly, much more enjoyable ways. In other words, I am lighting up about pretty much everything.  For example, where I have judged myself as not doing something “correctly,” I now figure that however I approach anything, it’s just fine as it is. And that’s proving to be true! My less than normal way of doing anything is creating space for others to step in and be great. (More on that in another blog.) 

NEW NORMAL 9 – I am good on my own. I no longer need anyone or anything outside myself to feel whole, complete, beautiful, and relevant.(Tears of joy happening in this very moment.) 

This new normal is a new season of life for me. It is my opportunity to create stories of love and fun that are uniquely me.

P.S. We’re going to be learning a lot about “new normals” this month! I want your input about the “new normals” in your life!  ❤️

P.P.S  It’s the season of Joy!

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